Having a baby can be one of the most fulfilling yet emotionally overwhelming experiences. Childbirth can also cause multiple hormonal changes in the female body, leading to changes in mood and emotional drain. Sometimes, these changes can lead to postpartum depression, a condition associated with constant feelings of sadness, anxiety and worry after giving birth.
This can be a confusing time for partners, as they may not know what the other person is going through. The good news is that there are multiple ways in which you can support your partner and navigate postpartum depression effectively
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Recognize the signs of postpartum depression (PPD)
The first step to supporting your partner effectively with postpartum depression is to spot its symptoms early. Some signs of PPD may include constant feelings of sadness, unworthiness, crying spells, loss of appetite and a lack of sleep. Being aware of these symptoms is crucial, as they might often be overlooked as baby blues. Awareness can also help with early treatment.
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Encourage your partner to talk
PPD can make your partner feel isolated and lonely, leaving them overwhelmed with thoughts and feelings. Offer support by actively listening and validating their feelings. Do not judge or dismiss their feelings. Open communication and active listening can make them feel heard and understood.
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Help out with the baby
Sometimes, caring for the newborn baby can feel tiring and exhausting for new mothers, which can contribute to or worsen symptoms of PPD. Mothers may consistently feel that they are ‘not doing enough’ for their baby, worsening the feelings of guilt and sadness.
At such times, offering support to the baby, whether it’s diaper changes, feedings, or rocking them to sleep, can give your partner enough time to sleep and rest while also showing them that they are not alone.
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Set boundaries with friends and family
In a collectivist culture like India, a house is likely to be flooded with visitors and relatives after childbirth. However, many mothers with PPD can find it difficult and overwhelming to interact with so many people. Sometimes, people may also give unsolicited advice, furthering the pre-existing stress. Check with your partner regarding their comfort with social interactions and set boundaries if necessary.
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Help them with self-care
A mother’s schedule can change drastically after childbirth; however, it can be even more complicated during PPD. Simple acts of self-care like eating a meal or taking a shower might seem overwhelming. Encourage your partner to prioritize their own well-being by offering to watch the baby while they shower, nap, or go for a walk. Self-care can improve overall physical and mental health.
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Express appreciation and gratitude
Partners with PPD can often experience feelings of worthlessness, isolation and self-doubt. At such times, regular appreciation and gratitude can make them feel valued while also reassuring them that they are doing their best. This can boost mood and confidence
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Encourage them to seek help
Quite often, the treatment of PPD requires seeking help from a professionally trained therapist or a psychiatrist. Encourage your partner to seek help as soon as possible. Offer to schedule appointments and accompany them to it. A professional can help them with effective strategies to cope with the PPD.
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Seek support for yourself
Supporting a partner with PPD can be emotionally exhausting. Ensure that you schedule some time for self-care and seek support for yourself. Consider reaching out to friends, family or a therapist to share your feelings and concerns. When you feel good, you will care for your partner in better ways.
Conclusion:
Supporting a partner with PPD requires empathy, patience and the willingness to work together as a team. By being aware of the symptoms, providing your partner a safe space, helping out with the baby’s care and needs, and expressing regular appreciation, you can ensure that your partner feels supported and valued. With mutual understanding and support, you can make this experience into an opportunity for a deeper connection.
References:
- 17 Tips for How to Help Your Wife With Postpartum Depression. (n.d.). ChoosingTherapy.Com. Retrieved January 21, 2025, from https://www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-help-wife-with-postpartum-depression/
- How to support your partner through postpartum depression and anxiety. (n.d.). Retrieved January 21, 2025, from https://www.mavenclinic.com/post/how-to-support-your-partner-through-postpartum-depression-and-anxiety
- Postpartum Depression: Causes, Symptoms & Treatment. (n.d.). Cleveland Clinic. Retrieved January 21, 2025, from https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9312-postpartum-depression
- Wellness, S. (n.d.). What to do When Your Wife has Postpartum Depression | Serenity Recovery & Wellness. Retrieved January 21, 2025, from https://www.serenityrw.com/what-to-do-when-your-wife-has-postpartum-depression/
